Lori is a compassionate, attentive, experienced coach who helped me work through a relationship dilemma. Her coaching brought a fresh perspective to the situation, and has brought in lasting changes to the area we explored together. I highly recommend her service.

Ali Hendry- Holistic Relationship Coach PCC, TEDx speaker

A Little Background!

As you know, I am a life coach. This simply means, I will walk through a dilemma or a personal growth experience with you, helping you achieve what you want and desire. I use holistic strategies to help with emotional well being, and a safe space to reflect and align ones inner self. Strategies such as immersion in nature, the arts, self-talk, meditation and mindfulness, the client’s spirituality, journaling, etc.

This testimonial came from an interview I had been asked to go on for the Radiant Coaches Academy. They asked to interview me about why I became a coach, if coaching training was worth it, and to have a coaching session happen live.

Believe it or not, I had gone into this interview forgetting I was going to also be doing a live coaching session!

I have been doing interviews fairly consistently lately. I guess when they were interviewing me it just felt like another interview during the session. It surprised me then when Ali casually says, “Now, you ready to do some coaching?” I was all like… Sure! * cringe* Whoops!

If you listen in to the interview, my nervous laugh happens right there!

About the Issue

Ali started off letting me know they were not sure which dilemma they wanted to talk about. It happened to be something they picked on the fly, but was important to them. They wanted to unpack their block around experiencing their body with another person in a romantic, erotic, or relationship manner.

She had been concerned that she had been so busy with her career, that she was not going to embrace opportunities for a relationship. She worried it may never happen for her, and while she wasn’t sure what she wanted now, she knew she didn’t want to be single forever.

This dilemma is not unique.

You may have experienced moments after a relationship where you were afraid to loose yourself in a new relationship, or afraid to embrace experiencing new sexual encounters that may not lead to a relationship.

Perhaps you’ve encountered nerves around your body, heart, or use of time that have been used as a reason to avoid opportunities. Whatever the reason behind it, believe it or not, does not always matter. The situational outcome is the same.

  • Avoidance.
  • Rejecting embracing your desire.
  • Stuck
  • Anxious

So, What happened? Session Experiences.

Coaching is not therapy, in that we are not healing anything. So we are not uncovering the details of why this is happening, or any traumas that the body is reacting to causing this. We are not healing anything. This is a typical and fairly common human dilemma that needed reassurance from within and a safe space to talk through it.

Ali was coached through it using multiple coaching modalities. These were specifically selected as the opportunities appeared. Remember, coaching is client centered. Not all sessions will be the same or all modalities used.

  • Reflective questioning (no input from me!)
  • Acknowledgment of issue and concerns (feeling heard)
  • Meditation with envisioning new outcomes safely
    • Staying present with their body and feelings
  • Journaling and reflecting on their experience
  • Affirmation, embracing new opportunities and the steps needed to take
  • Setting short term goals toward their chosen desire
  • Affirming their desire to do this and their why


No where in the session did I give my opinion, or my thoughts on what choices they should make, or what is right or not. Ali came up with their own plan, and their own choices. It could have gone either way- as it was truly uncovering what they really wanted and how to get there. By the end, however, Ali had decided they were going to take that step toward experiencing their body with another person if that opportunity arouse again.

They confirmed they wanted what they were afraid of, and that if go for it, if they stay open, they would like it! That it would feel good, and they would be okay taking steps to being open to it.

Listen in!

Since life coaching is a fairly new field, there are a lot of people wondering if this is a good choice for them. So how about you listen in? Enjoy listening to it, if you choose. About 20 minutes in the session starts, but why not listen to the interview before that anyway?

Want coaching for yourself?

Contact me! coach@lorisweetman.com or book a session here.

Listen to the coaching session here!

About Mx. Lori Sweetman, MA, CLC

Mx. Lori Sweetman is director of Include LGBTQ Empowered Life Coaching and Consulting, and an expert and advocate for the LGBTQ community. Lori devotes their life to helping people feel empowered in their gender and sexuality, and thereby confident in living as their authentic self, freely and openly. People who reach out for life coaching with Lori may be feeling disconnected with who they are, confused or overwhelmed with what to do once they've realized their life is not aligned with their relationship, gender, or sexual orientation. People who have gone through coaching with Lori come out feeling happier and more fulfilled, sexually empowered, have improved their relationships and lessened their anxiety. As a non-binary, polyamorous lesbian who came out later in life and is now living openly and freely, Lori can truly connect with their clients and develop the safe space to support them in discovering what it is they want in this one life they get to live. Include LGBTQ is primarily a coaching organization, working with families and individuals to feel empowered in their gender and sexuality, overcome life obstacles, and craft a happy life as their authentic self. Lori will cater to the LGBTQ+ community, and their families. Include LGBTQ works with teens and their parents or adults seeking support reaching their goals and improving their overall happiness. Lori will provides educational workshops, training, and speak on inclusivity and LGBTQ+ topics for podcasts, organizations, and corporate leaders.
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