Lori is a compassionate, attentive, experienced coach who helped me work through a relationship dilemma. Her coaching brought a fresh perspective to the situation, and has brought in lasting changes to the area we explored together. I highly recommend her service.
Ali Hendry- Holistic Relationship Coach PCC, TEDx speaker
A Little Background!
As you know, I am a life coach. This simply means, I will walk through a dilemma or a personal growth experience with you, helping you achieve what you want and desire. I use holistic strategies to help with emotional well being, and a safe space to reflect and align ones inner self. Strategies such as immersion in nature, the arts, self-talk, meditation and mindfulness, the client’s spirituality, journaling, etc.
This testimonial came from an interview I had been asked to go on for the Radiant Coaches Academy. They asked to interview me about why I became a coach, if coaching training was worth it, and to have a coaching session happen live.
Believe it or not, I had gone into this interview forgetting I was going to also be doing a live coaching session!
I have been doing interviews fairly consistently lately. I guess when they were interviewing me it just felt like another interview during the session. It surprised me then when Ali casually says, “Now, you ready to do some coaching?” I was all like… Sure! * cringe* Whoops!
If you listen in to the interview, my nervous laugh happens right there!
About the Issue
Ali started off letting me know they were not sure which dilemma they wanted to talk about. It happened to be something they picked on the fly, but was important to them. They wanted to unpack their block around experiencing their body with another person in a romantic, erotic, or relationship manner.
She had been concerned that she had been so busy with her career, that she was not going to embrace opportunities for a relationship. She worried it may never happen for her, and while she wasn’t sure what she wanted now, she knew she didn’t want to be single forever.
This dilemma is not unique.
You may have experienced moments after a relationship where you were afraid to loose yourself in a new relationship, or afraid to embrace experiencing new sexual encounters that may not lead to a relationship.
Perhaps you’ve encountered nerves around your body, heart, or use of time that have been used as a reason to avoid opportunities. Whatever the reason behind it, believe it or not, does not always matter. The situational outcome is the same.
- Avoidance.
- Rejecting embracing your desire.
- Stuck
- Anxious
So, What happened? Session Experiences.
Coaching is not therapy, in that we are not healing anything. So we are not uncovering the details of why this is happening, or any traumas that the body is reacting to causing this. We are not healing anything. This is a typical and fairly common human dilemma that needed reassurance from within and a safe space to talk through it.
Ali was coached through it using multiple coaching modalities. These were specifically selected as the opportunities appeared. Remember, coaching is client centered. Not all sessions will be the same or all modalities used.
- Reflective questioning (no input from me!)
- Acknowledgment of issue and concerns (feeling heard)
- Meditation with envisioning new outcomes safely
- Staying present with their body and feelings
- Journaling and reflecting on their experience
- Affirmation, embracing new opportunities and the steps needed to take
- Setting short term goals toward their chosen desire
- Affirming their desire to do this and their why
Results
No where in the session did I give my opinion, or my thoughts on what choices they should make, or what is right or not. Ali came up with their own plan, and their own choices. It could have gone either way- as it was truly uncovering what they really wanted and how to get there. By the end, however, Ali had decided they were going to take that step toward experiencing their body with another person if that opportunity arouse again.
They confirmed they wanted what they were afraid of, and that if go for it, if they stay open, they would like it! That it would feel good, and they would be okay taking steps to being open to it.
Listen in!
Since life coaching is a fairly new field, there are a lot of people wondering if this is a good choice for them. So how about you listen in? Enjoy listening to it, if you choose. About 20 minutes in the session starts, but why not listen to the interview before that anyway?
Want coaching for yourself?
Contact me! coach@lorisweetman.com or book a session here.
